Saturday, May 4, 2013

Update on Me 2 years later

So I was just on a site that I used to frequent quite a bit and realized that I hadn't really updated too much about life lately..

So here we go... You all mostly know about the big move from Malden to Melrose that happened almost 2 months ago (it really doesn't feel like it was that long ago already).. but I haven't talked about a couple of big decisions that have happened lately.. First off I'm no longer wearing my wedding rings.. It was truly time. I took them off maybe a week or two after I moved.. mostly because I'm trying to move on with my life. I'm not sure what is going to happen but I was ready to do it and I want to appear more available than I did when I was still wearing them. I had a long talk with a couple of trusted people before I did it. I admit it did feel weird at first to not have them on and I even tried out wearing my Claddagh Ring that I had found while packing for a couple days but since I'd never worn it without being "taken" it felt weird to wear it as "available" so I took that off too. Now it feels ok and normal to wear nothing on my ring finger after having something there practically 24/7 for almost 14 years.

Secondly and somewhat linked to the above.. I'm starting to date again. It's really weird to be back in the dating world especially when it's been 20 years since I've actually "dated" or tried to start a relationship and this time I have 2 kids to consider besides just me. I have a really good friend at my church that I thought would be a good match for us since we all really like this person a lot (and still do to be honest) but it wasn't to be unfortunately. Though as a first time out of the gate relationship it was a good learning experience to figure out what I truly want. Maybe further down the line I can try that relationship again. We'll see. I did join a dating site and it's hilarious the types of guys that are out there looking and thinking that I MIGHT be interested in them. My 2 favorites so far were the 23 year old who offered me a massage (um NO) and the 20 year old that called me a MILF (let me know if you need an explanation on that term) which was nice to see but my gosh I could be that guy's mother with the age difference and Ewwww.  Not going down that road at all. Hopefully I'll eventually find someone for me and eventually have the girls meet this person when the time is right.
There are actually 2 possible guys that I've been chatting with and hope to meet soon. We'll see if either of them pans out. Stay tuned..

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I'm so happy that you posted a big update. I've been wondering how you've been - the big picture. -Duel Cats